Breaking the Mirror…

picasso Jessica Hadari Coach

In a deceivingly simple process I practiced recently with a few of my women’s circles, one woman holds up a mirror in front of the woman seated just next to her.

When the woman holding the mirror feels that the woman being reflected really sees herself, the mirror holder and then the rest of the circle gives that woman appreciation for both her inner and outer beauty. Some of us have known each other for a while; The appreciations often go on organically for ten minutes or longer. Women all have different and sometimes edgy experiences of receiving this directed attention and reflection.

In one circle we were all joking about the mirror that we were using, which was partially cracked – That old saying that broken mirrors lead so seven years of bad luck Continue reading

“Relating” vs. relation”ships”

I hope you will take a few minutes to read this and perhaps respond. In this age of consciously choosing to unplug from old paradigms (for example, the “heterosexual boyfriend/girlfriend, engagement, marriage, kids, love forever” box) it is important for me to be also conscious about how I use my language, how I label and categorize myself.

I have been thinking a lot about the Couples Evening at Paget and Philippe’s a few months ago. We got into a discussion about relationships versus the act of relating, among other things. The debate went on and on and although I enjoy a good debate, this one seemed to go around I circles. In having several conversations with both Paget and Sherry since that night, I think that even after the long debate, Liam and I were the only ones who walked away that evening with an understanding of what Liam and I wanted to communicate. Continue reading