Relationship to Accountability

My response to Bryan Franklin’s Facebook post: “how are you Accountable?”

My 1st Response:

Jessica Hadari at 9:53pm June 1

Level 1: though I shy away from “woo-woo”: when shayen was diagnosed as terminal when first born, I unlayered a deep knowing (doesn’t matter if it’s true ['cause it is]) that that he chose his life before he got here, and that if he died that would have been perfect too – and that I too chose this life and everything in it before I got here: humans on a spiritual journey. Spirits on a human journey… Continue reading

Desconsos Part 4: As long as women play Dumb

The inquiry continues…

“Stupid…”

The Prove I’m Smart  & Playing Dumb mind-game.

“Stupid Idiot!” a name my mother yelled at me often growing up. (bless her heart) “Are you

stupid?”  my third grade teacher asked me, probably more of a statement than a question. Continue reading

Desconsos Part 3: Take a Chance…

“…one learns that we need not fear (these) initiations, these times of breaking apart. The soul cannot grow or change without them. What the human ego or the human body experience as traumas, the soul instantly recognizes as opportunities to shed what is no longer needed. When the heart is broken, the soul is released from its prior constellations. It begins the ancient process of dissolution, dismemberment, and new life. The soul rushes toward rebirth…”
Kimberley Patton
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My Relationship to my Worth…and what I Value

“Take a Chance You Stupid Ho.” read the back of a shirt I wore recently Continue reading

Descansos Part 2: Weather or Not to be Bitter

“There is a time in our lives, usually midlife, when a woman has to make a decision – Possibly the most important psychic decision of her future life – about whether to be bitter or not…”
- Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D., Women Who Run with the Wolves
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Whether to be bitter or not:

Until recently I had a Jessica-in-a-chokehold belief that I should never partner or become a parent ever again, due to my expression of anger and how it showed up in my marriage and in my parenting. Continue reading

Descansos Part 1: Marking the Small & Big Deaths

grief jessica hadari Descansos: Resting places. Symbols that mark a death…

A few weeks ago (around the same time a woman in my women’s circle was diagnosed with cancer) my women’s circle began the Descansos process, taken from the book Women Who Run with the Wolves. In this process I took the time (several weeks, in this case) to look at the time-line of my life birth to now and mark where the small deaths and big deaths have taken place; All of the moments in my life where I experienced impact;

Or loss;

Or where there was a fork in the road and I took one path, when I could have taken another;

Or where I experienced an event which changed the way I thought/believed about myself, the world, about men, about women… Continue reading

Earth Circles Counseling Center: Compassionate Psychotherapy

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  • Life transitions and concerns of aging
  • Body image issues
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  • Spiritual growth and transformation
  • Knock Gently and Draw me out…

    my Forgiveness / Clearing Letter to a friend

    Where I have been inauthentic:

    In our relationship: I have been insecure, endlessly needy for love & for reassurance, resentful, blameful. Thinking I’m not good enough

    The impact this has:

    I am never satisfied, attached, shut down, dominating, I feel afraid and small. I don’t feel close to you.

    The new Possibility I want to invent for myself and my life Continue reading

    TED Talk video: Isabel Allende – Speaks about Passion

    TED Talk video: Isabel Allende – about passion

    Why you should listen to her:

    As a novelist and memoirist, Isabel Allende writes of passionate lives, including her own. Born into a Chilean family with political ties, she went into exile in the United States in the 1970s — an event that, she believes, created her as a writer. Her voice blends sweeping narrative with touches of magical realism; her stories are romantic, in the very best sense of the word. Her novels include The House of the Spirits, Eva Luna and The Stories of Eva Luna, and her latest, Ines of My Soul and La Suma de los Dias (The Sum of Our Days). And don’t forget her adventure trilogy for young readers — City of the Beasts, Kingdom of the Golden Dragon and Forest of the Pygmies. Continue reading

    “Relating” vs. relation”ships”

    I hope you will take a few minutes to read this and perhaps respond. In this age of consciously choosing to unplug from old paradigms (for example, the “heterosexual boyfriend/girlfriend, engagement, marriage, kids, love forever” box) it is important for me to be also conscious about how I use my language, how I label and categorize myself.

    I have been thinking a lot about the Couples Evening at Paget and Philippe’s a few months ago. We got into a discussion about relationships versus the act of relating, among other things. The debate went on and on and although I enjoy a good debate, this one seemed to go around I circles. In having several conversations with both Paget and Sherry since that night, I think that even after the long debate, Liam and I were the only ones who walked away that evening with an understanding of what Liam and I wanted to communicate. Continue reading

    …the distinction between Anger and Violence.

    Before my Arete I strongly believed that it was wrong to express or feel anger, disgust or to a certain extent even sadness. To acquaintances I can imagine I appeared ever patient, ever considerate, ever happy. Though in the arena of the Arete Community and to folks who have done a lot of work with authenticity, radical honesty and so forth my happy act was not so impressive. As well the people most close to me were unfortunate to experience the explosions of emotions I rained down after bottling up.

    Since Arete I have slowly come to know the difference between anger and violence; that anger can be a powerful cleansing and even healing force Continue reading